How to process “ghosting” with EI

So you’ve been ghosted… For example, a recruiter, partner, or prospect unexpectedly went silent on you.

If your response is:

“I couldn’t care less…”
(while trying to wipe the person from your life, plotting revenge, or hoping the universe will “teach” them).

Here’s what to do next:

Before checking in [passive-aggressively] with the person one last time (or taking a vow of silence): 

clear your psychological dependency on dignity and morals
(along with other cognitive errors).

Otherwise, whatever you think you “don’t care about” or you’ve “let go” — will manage your future behaviors. 

Fuel unhealthy reactions:

• to the person (and anyone in their role)
• revert it as self-blame, self-deprecation, lack of self-compassion
• firewall your compassion for others (+ resulting constructive engagement)

Look into even imaginary retaliation to “disrespect…” It exposes very real biases and cognitive errors. An ill-wishing mental stream that hurts, begging to be cleared.

If nothing else, just remind yourself, there’s a human being on the other side. Who may be tortured by the same dependency on dignity (because of the inability to respond to your liking), fears of hurting you, etc.