How not to make your fear of “uncertainty” a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If you look closer, it is not some generic uncertainty your mind is worried about.
The “virtual reality” of your mind is on autopilot to ensure only desired outcomes. It is fighting (or flighting) imaginary monsters, preventively punishing everyone responsible, including ourselves. Mentally, for now.
The state is quite unproductive and may indeed become “a self-fulfilling prophecy,” unless abated.
Break it down into manageable components
Your lack of subjective certainty in expected outcomes is usually fueled by very specific causes:
- fears of bad outcomes (“what if I get fired, will be unable to find clients, fail, lose,” etc.)
- attachments (lifestyle, income, relationships)
- limiting beliefs (“I must not disappoint people who depend on me”)
- bad past experiences (“I had a terrible time during the crisis of 2008”)
- obsolete habits (“I am angry with the world for doing this to me”).
Prevent each component from managing you
Find, label, and reframe all of the active components. If needed, break down further into issues you can successfully exhaust. For example, fear of losing a job can have multiple supporting causes. Here is how to extinguish specific fears.
If you clear all of the supporting causes, the fear of uncertainty will no longer arise. You will feel calm, and confident. Look forward even to unknown outcomes.